The Sad Truth about Writing

Ever since I was a little girl I’ve wanted to be a published author, as I’m sure many other bloggers have dreamed. For the past year or so I’ve been attempting to write my first novel and believe me when I say – it sucks. Writing is long and hard and usually pretty boring. Sometimes it’s great but generally you end up hitting a wall or feeling like your characters are 2-D and ordinary. It’s frustrating to read a book and then return to your writing and see that it’s sup-par in comparison. Writing takes a hell-of-a-lot of commitment and time and effort and actual talent. It’s draining sitting at a keyboard hour after hour going God-knows-where and attempting to keep your dream alive; to keep your enthusiasm for it alive. It sucks, trust me.

The thing about me is, I have about a million ginormous dreams and realizing them all is going to be near impossible. But I have to believe I can do it, so I push on. Writing is hard and boring and unbelievably frustrating but it’s also rewarding. The feeling you get when you create something, something amazing out of nothing but your mind; when your characters seem to come alive in front of you cannot be matched. The realization that people might one day pick up your creation and find something magical is a thought you will never forget first having. Creating new worlds, and new people is an incredible feeling.

Yes writing is awful, that’s the sad truth we have to accept, but writing can be great and it can be magical and that’s why we do it; to find the amazing in the ordinary.

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Not everyone will like you . . . and that’s okay.

During the course of an your life you will inevitably meet people that don’t like you/don’t approve. But you know what: it’s okay. Not everyone has to like you, you just need to like yourself. The people we seek approval from now will come to mean nothing to us in a few years time, so why are they so important? It’s the people we don’t know that we care about the most, desperately seeking their opinion of us. But why? You don’t matter in their lives so why spend all your time trying to impress them and making them like you? The value of their approval will decrease each year so there’s no point worrying about it today.

The opinions you hold yourself are the only ones that matter. Not everyone you meet in this world will like you, but they don’t have to. Because they don’t matter, not in the slightest. You matter. That’s all.

Fear

Fear is a heart-stopping, body-binding phenomenon that we all experience. Fear is something you cannot outrun. I myself have a fear of flying, of elevators and of the dark. These are fears I have never outrun but you can embrace them. It is when fear controls our lives that we have lost.

When you feel that fear creeping up, when your heart begins to slow, don’t back down; don’t walk away. Stay and face your fear, don’t let it defeat you. Fears can stop you from living your life but you cannot give them that power. If you do, you have lost and there is no coming back from that. Walking away from whatever it is that scares you is the first step to never living a proper life; to always live scared of your own shadow.

The biggest fear that we all probably have is the fear you feel when someone you love gets sick, or has to leave. There is nothing we can do in those situations except offer support and kindness. That fear is one we are forced to face, head on. But that’s okay. Because it makes us stronger; because it makes us more aware of the love we have for those in our lives.

Fear is something you will always have to live with, but it is something you can control. So next time you feel afraid, face it, because it’s when you run from it that fear wins.